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Friday, April 16, 2010

Divorce....

When you marry someone its for better or worse......So you think. I have been having such a hard time dealing with everything that is going on and I feel like blogging about it. Divorce is something that I never wanted to go through, although there is no other option. My husband decided that he had found someone to replace me, his wife and the mother of his son, and also carrying his 2nd son, with another girl. I was 4 months pregnant when he left. For her. What a winner I chose. I have come to terms with it all, even though it was VERY hard to swallow, especially being pregnant, and now dealing with postpartum. It was for the best. As the saying goes "once a cheater,always a cheater" and so far that has held true, as far as their relationship goes. And as for her, being married and being a mother herself, well we all have a strong opinion about her. How can she sleep at night? How can she look at OUR beautiful newborn son and live with herself? I guess some women truley have NO morals huh? So as I proceed with the divorce, I am making a promise to myself to be the best that I can be..... I love my kids more than anything and they are what has kept me going through all of this. I will be much happier without him in my life, because once they do bad, it wont get better.
So I ask my readers, Have you been through a divorce? What was your situation? I love to hear from my followers! Have a great weekend everyone, I will post some new pics of Maxwell very soon! He is such a great baby, and I am blessed to have him in my life!

7 comments:

littlethings1 said...

Just read your post & my heart goes out to you BIG time ! Been there !!! I was also pregnant with my youngest when my husband left me and at that time I had three ,ages 2,4 & 6 ! He left & that was it , he found someone else.I know that there will be some hard days but there will also be some wonderful days ahead! My youngest son is now 22 & all of my children grew up to be wonderful & productive ! If you ever want to email me I have my email link on my blog ! A big hug & prayers to you !You will do wonderful! Your jewelry is fabulous too !
Eunice
The Little Things

Missie Krissie said...

Oh no, that is so horrible. I've never been there but at the moment I look after my 2 kids by myself as my husband is gone during the week- and it's hard! You must be very strong to be looking after a new born as well as your other children by yourself. I really admire you! I like your vow to just be the best you can be, great way to look at it and you will come out stringer for it!
Good luck, cant wait to see pics of your little darling!
Kris

willywagtail said...

Been there, done that only my children were 16,13 and 10. It is far better that it happened when yours are so littl. You have a chance to make a new life although sharing time between parents must be hell for the little ones. Write a list of all you would expect in a perfect husband, at least 10 points (I have 20) and only give way on no more than 2 or 3. It is easy to go back for the same type or go completely contrary that is why a list that is written before you become involved with someone new is best because your heart is not involved. And if he asks for a pre-nup just get rid of him.lol They steal your life and your children's and it is incredibly unfair. I am about 6 years past my divorce and starting to feel much more acceptance but still have post traumatic stress symptioms when some situations arise.

willywagtail said...

Also remember that he is the scum and that in no way reflects on you. You are good and need to keep reinforcing that to yourself. Cherrie

PaperQuick said...

My high school sweetheart and I were married 11 years and had 2 children when he wandered. I divorced him in 1984 and he regretted it for the next 17 years. He watched from the sidelines as someone else raised his children and stood beside his true love!
We remarried in 2001 and he still raves about how stupid he was and how painful it was to lose it all and watch from the sidelines!
Do I regret divorcing him? NO! He needed to grow up and I needed to spread my wings and fly! I don't regret a thing but he still regrets it all!
You may not feel like it at times right now but you're the real winner in all of this and time will prove that to you I promise!
You still have yourself respect as well as the respect of all your friends and family, you're amazing! Debbie

Erin Keys said...

Thanks so much for the comments! You all have lifted my spirits thats for sure!
Debbie- wow! Yeah he will have a hard time with that for sure. All in time. :)

Sara at Soap Rehab said...

I got divorced when my son was 5. The first year was the hardest, but I came out of it with a stronger sense of self. My ex and I are now both married to people that are much better for us, so I feel like everything worked itself out eventually. :)

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